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Module 4 The End of Us and Them

Exploring Victim Perpetrator Dynamics: Disorganized Attachment

Do you know someone who is:

Easily triggered into frustration, fear and despair when circumstance or agreements are unclear? Yearns for, but deeply fears, relationships because they expect them to be dangerous? Shifts moods easily and act out of panic and rage? Learn to assess and address these patterns by learning about the residual interpersonal effects of Victim Perpetrator dynamics and Disorganized Attachment styles.

Learn to :

  • Repair ruptured boundaries to enhance a sense of personal safety
  • Revive embodied aliveness as high arousal states causing dissociation are cleared and discharged
  • Create appropriate therapeutic empathy and avoid misuse of empathy when it triggers disintegration
  • Help clients complete the fight/flight or freeze responses in a way that creates lasting empowerment
  • Resolve relational ambivalence that may remain long after the original experience.
  • Differentiate victim-perpetrator fusion and release toxic interjects to allow experience of the untainted self
  • Understand Savior, incompetent Protector, and Perpetrator Trauma Transferences

The Challenge

The complex wounding relationship that exists between victims and their perpetrators can present unique challenges to therapeutic professionals. The intensity of an invasive sexual or violent encounter can create strong, disabling relational issues for victims, resulting in a loss of differentiation, the coupling of rage and powerlessness, or a need to act out the victim and/or perpetrator identity. When encountered in early life, terrifying circumstances can imprint a Disorganized Attachment style on a child. They may develop Affect Regulation problems, social difficulties, attention deficits, and lack of a coherent mind. He or she may become aggressive with others or exhibit a controlling style due to the danger experienced with out-of-control, scary parents. These terrifying and disorienting actions can be:

  • 1. Communication from caregivers that contain “paradoxical injunctions or double binds” which present the child with insolvable problems, i.e., “Come here, go away” messages.
  • 2. Parents who give conflicting signals that make no sense and have a disturbing lack of clarity setting the child up for predictable failure.
  • 3. Parents who set up interactions that are frightening, disorienting and inherently disorganizing to the infant.
  • 4. For example, the parent may be calm one moment and by being triggered internally, may be enraged the next.

In the Disorganized Attachment Style major biological drives are in constant conflict: the innate drive to attach and the instinctual drive to survive. In this workshop we will approach this Disorganized Attachment by working to uncouple, untangle, complete and heal both strong biological drives:

  • 1) The Attachment System: Intention is to give the attachment system a safe place to land and separate it from the survival instinct.
  • 2) The Survival Instinct: Once the person can attach to a safe relationship, then they can begin to restore their self protective responses against threat.

An Integrated Approach for Powerful Change

In this interactive workshop, we will explore how body/mind based therapy techniques and a variety of spiritual practices can be used in tandem to effectively address abuse dynamics, alleviating unnecessary suffering and reawakening your clients’ joy of living.

When examined separately, trauma healing, traditional psychotherapy and spiritual development may appear to be conflicting paths. Psychology emphasizes building and strengthening a healthy ego, whereas many spiritual schools focus on dismantling the ego to access more expansive states. Trauma can open us to expansive states that may also be quite terrifying.

Du är här: Hem/Kurs : Anknytning / DARE/Module 4 The End of Us and Them: Exploring Victim Perpetrator Dynamics: Disorganized Attachment

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